Why does a sanatorium need a psychologist?
Visitors to a sanatorium usually rarely plan a meeting with a psychologist. Still, not so far, such help is built into our lives. Curative mud, mineral baths, herbal tea and many other procedures - this is usually associated with the concept of «spa treatment». Psychological consultations, group therapy, art therapy - this is a fairly new type of wellness services. Moreover, in the minds of most Russians, the words «psychologist», «psychotherapist» are still often associated with the «psycho» part, that is, with psychiatry. And this is almost genetically scary.
What in reality does and what does not the psychologist do?
At least not diagnosed. The psychologist is not a doctor, he will not write Latin names anywhere, he will not tell anyone anything and will not give a prescription. A psychologist works with healthy people, unlike a psychiatrist. With people who have difficulties in their lives. What kind?
For example, a man lived, and then something unexpected happened to him. Fired from work, the pension came up, the children grew up and left. There was a loss or separation, divorce. Or, without some striking external events, joy suddenly just disappeared. Or it became somehow difficult to get along with people, irritation rises by itself. Or insomnia has become constant, and pills do not help much, and you don’t want to take them all your life. In all these cases, a person faces the question: how to live? It seems that there is life, and all the conditions for it - not war, after all, but life is hard. And sometimes it’s not even clear why. What is it, this notorious meaning ...
The psychologist does not know all the answers.
He is not all-powerful lord, for which the person with his suffering - only a small brainless insect. The psychologist does not give advice precisely for this reason: he simply cannot know in advance all the situations and the algorithms for resolving them. A man is more complex than a coffee machine: he lowered a coin - got a drink, identified a problem - prescribed a way out of it. Each of us has his own story, therefore, the general tips with which magazines are full, for example, do not work.
The psychologist can be with you in the living of your difficult feelings, can notice some shadowy manifestations of yours, draw your attention to them:
• Do you notice that all your love stories seem to be created according to one scenario?
• Do you realize what you feel for this person right now?
• Are you ready to change something in your life
• What makes you happy?
• What and when was the last time you did for yourself? How do you support and fulfill yourself?
These are the examples of questions for orientation - for those who have no experience with a psychologist at all.
You won’t hear the words «You cannot live like this» or «You need to do this» from a professional. There is no x-ray in his eyes. And there is an attentive, supportive professional look at you and your difficulties. There is no evaluation and evaluation (bad - good), which surprises many. And the task of the psychologist is not to offer you to heal in a new way, according to some ideal, one known to him scheme, but to help you realize what your life strategies are currently not adaptive, not satisfactory for you.
In the «Yantar» sanatorium, in addition to individual consultations, you can gain experience in group psychological work.
Such meetings take place regularly, they are devoted to the most important general issues: how to live in stress, how to build relationships with older children, why psychological boundaries are needed, is it true that all diseases are from nerves, is love jealousy a sister - for example. Such meetings are held very lively, this is not a boring lecture, but a lively communication of the participants with a psychologist and with each other. Group interaction is truly healing, because we humans are social beings.
Often at the end of such a meeting I can hear:
• I really want to live now for some reason.
• I have a lot to think about.
• I wanted to get to know myself better. It's good that I'm retired and I have more time for this now.
The age of participants in group meetings and individual consultations is very different, from 3 to 85. And the point is not so much in them, in these figures, but in how a person lives at this age: freely, openly, thoughtfully or stressfully, suspiciously and sadly. And if suddenly you attributed yourself to those who are not breathing very easily and are not very happy, but are ready to learn something about themselves and do things for themselves - come.
Come to us and welcome. It will be interesting, I promise. And healing. After all, for care of the body and the soul people came up with a sanatoriums.
Sanatorium «Yantar» psychologist Marina Berezchenko.